As a Grandparent, Do I Have Visitation Rights with My Grandchildren?

As a Grandparent, Do I Have Visitation Rights with My Grandchildren?
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Last updated: March 2006

Note:The Illinois Marriage and Dissolution Act and Paternity Act changed on January 1, 2016. The most up-to-date information can be found in the following articles: Parentage (formerly Paternity), Divorce, Allocation of Parental Responsibilities (formerly Custody), Parenting Time (formerly Visitation), and Child Support.

The following question was submitted to John Roska, an attorney/writer whose weekly newspaper column, "Q&A: The Law," runs in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch (Illinois Edition) and the Champaign News Gazette.


What visitation rights do grandparents have? Our son and his wife had a daughter. They got divorced, and custody went to the mother. Our son got behind on his child support, so his ex-wife refuses to let him or us have visits. Do we have any right to see our granddaughter?


Illinois law refers to grandparent visitation as a “privilege.” It’s not a right. You do have the right to go to court and ask for visitation, but a court is not required to give you any. Under Illinois law you must show that denying visitation will harm the child mentally or physically, and that you are being unreasonably denied visitation by a parent. The law also lets great-grandparents and siblings ask for visitation.

Before going to court, talk with the child’s mother. Try to work out some visitation by agreement. If that doesn’t work, your next step would be to file a petition for grandparent visitation. You’d file that petition as a new proceeding in your son’s divorce case. In other situations, where there’s no divorce or custody case, grandparents can file their own case if the grandchild’s parents are separated, or if a parent has died.

Once that petition is filed, you can still try to work out an agreement for a visitation order. Otherwise, you’ll have to have a trial, and present witnesses and evidence. 

If the mother is considered a fit parent, then the court must follow her wishes unless there is a danger of harm to the child. However, Judges will usually try to maintain a healthy and established relationship between grandparents and a grandchild. 

On the other hand, grandparent visitation will be denied or permanently revoked if it’s being used to get around a restriction on a parent’s visitation rights. That means that if your son’s visitation has been restricted in some way, you’ll have to prove that your visitation won’t violate those restrictions.

Two final notes: Grandparents will probably get less visitation than parents get. Lawyers will probably charge about $500, or more, to handle a grandparent visitation case.

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